Most people pleasers bend and contort themselves to please others because of three key beliefs...🙏 They fear they aren't good enough and are seeking approval and validation or🙏 They fear they don't belong so they change themselves to "fit in" or🙏 They are scared that they are unlovable so they please others to avoid rejection, … Continue reading Three reasons you’re a people pleaser
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Introvert versus extrovert
I've been talking to a few people recently who have said they're introverts, socially awkward, shy and not very confident.The funny thing is, at no point in the conversation had I thought they were any of these labels they had used to define themselves.They all came across as totally capable, bubbly, passionate, good communicators, funny, … Continue reading Introvert versus extrovert
How do you talk to yourself? Like a bully or with love?
"You’re so uncool. You’re boring. You’re stupid. You’re so not attractive."All things I've previously told myself."Why do you think you could do that? Those people are better than me. I should be more like them. I'm just not good enough."All things I've previously told myself."I've failed before so therefore it proves I can't do this. … Continue reading How do you talk to yourself? Like a bully or with love?
Four ways to honour your value
We often forget how amazing we actually are as humans, as people, as individuals. We forget about the value we intrinsically have. Life is busy. There's all these demands. Everyone seems to just want to take, take, take. I get it. It's too easy sometimes to feel a little bit like yesterday's leftovers. We forget … Continue reading Four ways to honour your value
Challenge number 6 – Give yourself a break
For the past two weeks I have been a snot-filled, coughing monster. 🤧 All thanks to coming off the excitement, adrenalin and cortisol caused by getting married. Having a head cold is no fun at the best of times but when you're a perfectionist, people pleaser, self-doubter and "should-er" like me, having a head cold … Continue reading Challenge number 6 – Give yourself a break
Challenge number 3 – what would you wear if you weren’t afraid?
You know that piece of clothing or piece of jewellery. It's sitting in the back of your wardrobe gathering dust. You really like it - it's why you bought it, right - but you think it's not you, that people will look at you if you wear it and judge you. And so you leave … Continue reading Challenge number 3 – what would you wear if you weren’t afraid?
You are a $100 note
You are like a $100 note.This is a story I've come across several times. It goes like this...Imagine I have a $100 note. Who wouldn't want a $100 note??Now imagine I’ve crumpled up that $100.Has it’s value changed? No, it’s still $100.Now imagine I’ve dropped it on the floor, I’ve got my dirty shoe and … Continue reading You are a $100 note
New Year, New You! – Group coaching workshop
Yip, we've ticked over into 2024 - it's started there's no going back. But the question is: How was 2023 for you? Did you achieve what you wanted to achieve? Did you go after your goals and dreams? Did you get the results you wanted? Is how you feel and where you're at serving you? … Continue reading New Year, New You! – Group coaching workshop
Does my head look big wearing this?
Does my head look big wearing these? 😅One of the optional homework challenges in the self-belief group coaching workshops I run is to wear a piece of clothing, jewellery or makeup that you've been hesitant wearing.Because there's often something in our wardrobes that we've been drawn to, bought and then let it hang there either:💄 … Continue reading Does my head look big wearing this?
Finding your cheerleader
I was talking to my mum the other day about self-development and we got onto the topic of relationships.Previously I was in an emotionally abusive relationship which sapped my dwindling spark but how things can change – I’m now about to get married next year to the most wonderful man.And in the intervening years I’ve … Continue reading Finding your cheerleader