"You’re so uncool. You’re boring. You’re stupid. You’re so not attractive."All things I've previously told myself."Why do you think you could do that? Those people are better than me. I should be more like them. I'm just not good enough."All things I've previously told myself."I've failed before so therefore it proves I can't do this. … Continue reading How do you talk to yourself? Like a bully or with love?
Failure
Three reasons why you keep feeling stuck
Got a goal but feeling stuck? It's normal. It happens to all of us. Here's three main reasons why you feel this way...1) Overwhelm and over thinkingMaybe you don't know what to do, you're worrying about making decisions or maybe you're scared or doubting yourself. When we start over thinking and focusing on lack, negativity, … Continue reading Three reasons why you keep feeling stuck
Redundancy isn’t a bad word
Redundancy.It's often seen as a dirty word.I've come across a few people over the past few weeks who have been affected in some way by current redundancies - there are A LOT here in New Zealand at the moment.It's very easy to view redundancy as bad and to feel our insecurities around money and the … Continue reading Redundancy isn’t a bad word
How long will it take to achieve your goals?
“How long will it take to achieve my goals? It feels like I’m not making any progress.” This is a question I’m often asked by my coaching clients when they have a goal or dream – whether it’s finding a job or a partner, dropping a dress size, writing a book, or signing a … Continue reading How long will it take to achieve your goals?
I’m starting a challenge
I'm starting a challenge. And it's a little bit scary - but that's the point. Each week I'm setting myself a challenge to step outside my comfort zone to see what's possible. Challenge number one is to video myself and post it. See 👇 I've been stewing about it for the last couple of days. … Continue reading I’m starting a challenge
Volcano number 26 – Helvellyn
Helvellyn – It’s a mountain (and a volcano) I’ve wanted to climb for years. One of those illusive ones that I could have done a number of times but just never got round to. That was, until earlier this month, when my fiancé and I made our way up to England’s Lake District for a … Continue reading Volcano number 26 – Helvellyn
How to overcome obstacles – be the river
Sometimes things just don't go to plan. An obstacle or a setback is placed in your path. At the time it can feel like the end of the world. Fears and doubts rush in, those feelings of not meeting expectations or not feeling good enough. I remember when I injured my knee as I neared … Continue reading How to overcome obstacles – be the river
What to do on a bad day
Sometimes you wake up and it's just not your day. You want to throw the towel in. You think: what's the point. So what can you do? Firstly, remember it's ok to feel like that. Don't beat yourself up for being human. Instead of pulling out your inner bully, focus on one small thing you … Continue reading What to do on a bad day
You are not broken
You are not broken. There is nothing to fix. You're just having a moment with a lot of thinking going on. That's all. You have everything you need inside you already - the strength, resilience, wisdom, guidance, courage. The answers are there. They are just clouded and overshadowed by your thinking. You'll hear them as … Continue reading You are not broken
Your dreams are waiting
The girl stood on tip toe on the narrow knobbly rock, one hand holding on for dear life, the other reaching for the ledge above. The ground plummeted some 5 metres below. Her friend holding the ropes sat not far above her, urging her on. She had about one metre left to climb. She just … Continue reading Your dreams are waiting