Why you keep making excuses and how to stop – so you can make your goals and dreams happen

Remember when you were a kid and you forgot to do your homework? There was always that joke – I didn’t do my homework because the dog ate it. And how often did the dog actually eat your homework? And actually, did you even have a dog? The point is you can come up with … Continue reading Why you keep making excuses and how to stop – so you can make your goals and dreams happen

Six questions to reassess your life, feel more positive and get back on track

Give yourself the thumbs up! Life has a way of life-ing and throwing curveballs. Circumstance comes along and life doesn't turn out how we think it should. We end up going through the motions on autopilot, overcome by responsibilities, expectations and logical reasons why things are a good or bad idea. "I'm too busy," we … Continue reading Six questions to reassess your life, feel more positive and get back on track

This is what causes a lack of confidence

Be the sun, always shining in the background Everybody wants to feel confident, right? And we hate that feeling when we feel we lack confidence and start doubting our abilities. It’s at those down times that, as humans, we have a tendency to think that confidence is like a magical property that is the answer … Continue reading This is what causes a lack of confidence

How self-doubt keeps you stuck

Self-doubt isn't like a felled tree over your path You know what it’s like… You’ve got this amazing dream and it really calls to you but you can’t help thinking.. what if I fail, what if people will laugh at me, I don’t have the confidence, I’m not ready, it’s impossible or I’m just not … Continue reading How self-doubt keeps you stuck

Three reasons you’re a people pleaser

Most people pleasers bend and contort themselves to please others because of three key beliefs...🙏 They fear they aren't good enough and are seeking approval and validation or🙏 They fear they don't belong so they change themselves to "fit in" or🙏 They are scared that they are unlovable so they please others to avoid rejection, … Continue reading Three reasons you’re a people pleaser

10 scary things I’ve done in my life

Scary things I've done in my life...☠ Moved to the UK from New Zealand by myself☠ Quit my job to go self-employed☠ Walked the Te Araroa Trail down the length of New Zealand - 2000km of that solo☠ Sailed around Great Britain with my now husband when I only had 5 days of sailing experience … Continue reading 10 scary things I’ve done in my life

Introvert versus extrovert

I've been talking to a few people recently who have said they're introverts, socially awkward, shy and not very confident.The funny thing is, at no point in the conversation had I thought they were any of these labels they had used to define themselves.They all came across as totally capable, bubbly, passionate, good communicators, funny, … Continue reading Introvert versus extrovert

How do you talk to yourself? Like a bully or with love?

"You’re so uncool. You’re boring. You’re stupid. You’re so not attractive."All things I've previously told myself."Why do you think you could do that? Those people are better than me. I should be more like them. I'm just not good enough."All things I've previously told myself."I've failed before so therefore it proves I can't do this. … Continue reading How do you talk to yourself? Like a bully or with love?

Redundancy isn’t a bad word

Redundancy.It's often seen as a dirty word.I've come across a few people over the past few weeks who have been affected in some way by current redundancies - there are A LOT here in New Zealand at the moment.It's very easy to view redundancy as bad and to feel our insecurities around money and the … Continue reading Redundancy isn’t a bad word