How self-doubt keeps you stuck

Self-doubt isn't like a felled tree over your path You know what it’s like… You’ve got this amazing dream and it really calls to you but you can’t help thinking.. what if I fail, what if people will laugh at me, I don’t have the confidence, I’m not ready, it’s impossible or I’m just not … Continue reading How self-doubt keeps you stuck

Three reasons you’re a people pleaser

Most people pleasers bend and contort themselves to please others because of three key beliefs...🙏 They fear they aren't good enough and are seeking approval and validation or🙏 They fear they don't belong so they change themselves to "fit in" or🙏 They are scared that they are unlovable so they please others to avoid rejection, … Continue reading Three reasons you’re a people pleaser

10 scary things I’ve done in my life

Scary things I've done in my life...☠ Moved to the UK from New Zealand by myself☠ Quit my job to go self-employed☠ Walked the Te Araroa Trail down the length of New Zealand - 2000km of that solo☠ Sailed around Great Britain with my now husband when I only had 5 days of sailing experience … Continue reading 10 scary things I’ve done in my life

Introvert versus extrovert

I've been talking to a few people recently who have said they're introverts, socially awkward, shy and not very confident.The funny thing is, at no point in the conversation had I thought they were any of these labels they had used to define themselves.They all came across as totally capable, bubbly, passionate, good communicators, funny, … Continue reading Introvert versus extrovert

How do you talk to yourself? Like a bully or with love?

"You’re so uncool. You’re boring. You’re stupid. You’re so not attractive."All things I've previously told myself."Why do you think you could do that? Those people are better than me. I should be more like them. I'm just not good enough."All things I've previously told myself."I've failed before so therefore it proves I can't do this. … Continue reading How do you talk to yourself? Like a bully or with love?

Redundancy isn’t a bad word

Redundancy.It's often seen as a dirty word.I've come across a few people over the past few weeks who have been affected in some way by current redundancies - there are A LOT here in New Zealand at the moment.It's very easy to view redundancy as bad and to feel our insecurities around money and the … Continue reading Redundancy isn’t a bad word

Are you a risk-taker?

Are you a risk taker?My husband was reading a book about a guy who sailed around Great Britain back in the 1860s and he was telling me about one part where the guy had three options.1) sail back the way he had already come2) take the easy and safe route forward3) take the riskier, potentially … Continue reading Are you a risk-taker?

How long will it take to achieve your goals?

“How long will it take to achieve my goals? It feels like I’m not making any progress.”   This is a question I’m often asked by my coaching clients when they have a goal or dream – whether it’s finding a job or a partner, dropping a dress size, writing a book, or signing a … Continue reading How long will it take to achieve your goals?

Challenge number 7 – try something new

How do you feel with the prospect of doing something new?Do your palms start to sweat? Your stomach curdle?Does your inner chatter start to go crazy? The good news is that's perfectly normal; perfectly human.See our ego mind - what some call the monkey mind - is programmed through evolution to keep us safe so … Continue reading Challenge number 7 – try something new