Most people pleasers bend and contort themselves to please others because of three key beliefs...đ They fear they aren't good enough and are seeking approval and validation orđ They fear they don't belong so they change themselves to "fit in" orđ They are scared that they are unlovable so they please others to avoid rejection, … Continue reading Three reasons you’re a people pleaser
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10 scary things I’ve done in my life
Scary things I've done in my life...â Moved to the UK from New Zealand by myselfâ Quit my job to go self-employedâ Walked the Te Araroa Trail down the length of New Zealand - 2000km of that soloâ Sailed around Great Britain with my now husband when I only had 5 days of sailing experience … Continue reading 10 scary things I’ve done in my life
Introvert versus extrovert
I've been talking to a few people recently who have said they're introverts, socially awkward, shy and not very confident.The funny thing is, at no point in the conversation had I thought they were any of these labels they had used to define themselves.They all came across as totally capable, bubbly, passionate, good communicators, funny, … Continue reading Introvert versus extrovert
I’ve started Parkrun – this is what I’ve learnt
Photo not from Parkrun but a walking event from a couple of years ago A couple of months ago I started Parkrun - the Saturday morning 5km community running event.But I don't run (because I'm not a runner) - instead I walk. If I'm honest I've always been a bit put off by Parkrun by … Continue reading I’ve started Parkrun – this is what I’ve learnt
You get to “choose” how to experience life
Thirteen years ago I started a relationship with a man who would turn out to be emotionally abusive.Sometimes I wonder if the signs were there before I said yes to dating him.Sometimes I wonder if my intuition was telling me stuff and I was choosing to ignore it.Sometimes I wonder what if my self-worth and … Continue reading You get to “choose” how to experience life
Four ways to honour your value
We often forget how amazing we actually are as humans, as people, as individuals. We forget about the value we intrinsically have. Life is busy. There's all these demands. Everyone seems to just want to take, take, take. I get it. It's too easy sometimes to feel a little bit like yesterday's leftovers. We forget … Continue reading Four ways to honour your value
Are you a risk-taker?
Are you a risk taker?My husband was reading a book about a guy who sailed around Great Britain back in the 1860s and he was telling me about one part where the guy had three options.1) sail back the way he had already come2) take the easy and safe route forward3) take the riskier, potentially … Continue reading Are you a risk-taker?
How long will it take to achieve your goals?
âHow long will it take to achieve my goals? It feels like Iâm not making any progress.â This is a question Iâm often asked by my coaching clients when they have a goal or dream â whether itâs finding a job or a partner, dropping a dress size, writing a book, or signing a … Continue reading How long will it take to achieve your goals?
Challenge number 8 – change your morning routine for a week
What's your morning routine?My normal one goes something like this:đ´ 6:30 wake up, drink coffee and read news updates (in other words on auto-pilot trying to shake the zombie feeling)đ´ 7am (ish) have breakfast and catch up on social media (generally still feeling like a zombie)đ´ 8am (ish) jump in shower and feel "rearing" to … Continue reading Challenge number 8 – change your morning routine for a week
Challenge number 6 – Give yourself a break
For the past two weeks I have been a snot-filled, coughing monster. 𤧠All thanks to coming off the excitement, adrenalin and cortisol caused by getting married. Having a head cold is no fun at the best of times but when you're a perfectionist, people pleaser, self-doubter and "should-er" like me, having a head cold … Continue reading Challenge number 6 – Give yourself a break