One of the random I thoughts and doubts I had ahead of walking the length of New Zealand was... I'm not Bear Grylls (that epic adventure man who drinks elephant dung). So therefore, I concluded, I can't walk 3,000km. Have you seen what I did there? First, I compared myself to someone who is uncomparable … Continue reading You don’t have to be a superstar
Self doubt
There is always hope
There is always hope - even when things are pretty bad, you feel down or the world seems out to get you. Recently, I got engaged - yip over the moon! But this was the last place I imagined I'd ever be. Especially several years ago when I was with another man in an emotionally … Continue reading There is always hope
How do you improve your self-worth?
How can I improve my self-worth? That was the question I asked myself when I experienced the fallout from an emotionally abusive relationship. It's taken several years to put the pieces together to realise it wasn't a matter of trying to improve my self-worth but rather recognising my self-worth was always there. Bottom line... Self-worth … Continue reading How do you improve your self-worth?
Small steps to success
It's all about the small steps and taking the next one. When I first set out walking the length of New Zealand, the whole concept was so huge and overwhelming and I was filled with self-doubt and worries about what ifs. It proved to be pretty paralysing for the first couple of years I toyed … Continue reading Small steps to success
Self-doubt doesn’t have to hold you back
"If only I didn't doubt myself then I'd be able to walk the length of New Zealand." That's what I told myself over and over again when I was "trying to find" the courage to take on the adventure. I thought my self-doubt was holding me back, stopping me in my tracks, and pointing to … Continue reading Self-doubt doesn’t have to hold you back
Your dreams are waiting
The girl stood on tip toe on the narrow knobbly rock, one hand holding on for dear life, the other reaching for the ledge above. The ground plummeted some 5 metres below. Her friend holding the ropes sat not far above her, urging her on. She had about one metre left to climb. She just … Continue reading Your dreams are waiting
We are all brave
I don't consider myself especially brave. Yet I've been called that a lot recently. It all started with my solo trek down the length of New Zealand. But I definitely didn't feel brave when I stood at the northern tip of New Zealand about take the first step. In fact, I was a total bundle … Continue reading We are all brave
Abuse doesn’t go unnoticed – friends can tell
I always felt there was something wrong with a previous relationship. I was right – it was emotionally abusive. Only I didn’t realise it at the time. I thought it was me that was setting the relationship all skew whiff – I was blamed enough times to believe it. But my friends knew something was … Continue reading Abuse doesn’t go unnoticed – friends can tell
You’re stronger than you think you are
We’d been sailing all night and were coming up 17 hours on the water. It had been a night darker than coal; no moon, thick dense cloud. I couldn’t even make out the bow of the boat. The wind had been keen and the waves had whooshed. It was anyone’s guess what they looked like … Continue reading You’re stronger than you think you are
There is nothing wrong with you
One of the defining features of my previous relationship which was emotionally abusive was the sense that there was something wrong with me. There were a lot of things I never seemed to get right – the time in the morning I brought his cup of tea, how I peeled mushrooms, pureeing soup instead of … Continue reading There is nothing wrong with you