Last week I wrote a blog about how I was conquering self doubt by being more aware of the negative thoughts flowing through my head. I’ve been really trying to practice this to stop them in their tracks.
As I hopefully get better at this, my next step is to try and counter that negativity by blasting some positivity at it.
This is, however, often easier said than done.
At a rudimental level, as soon as I pick up a bead of negativity emanating from my brain I quash it with logic and reason. I say (or something along these lines): “Hang on a darn second here, you’re being negative. Now you know that’s not good. And, you know that negative thought is also not right. You have no proof that you can’t do this, no proof that you’re not good enough, no proof that you don’t deserve this. In actual fact you know you’re better than this and can do it.”
Boof! I’ve given myself a stern talking to and at least half the time I trust this wiser me and feel better for it.
And the reasoning is all true. I have no proof that this is something I can’t do or that I’m not good enough. It is literally mind over matter and being able to find the belief within myself to know the negative thoughts aren’t true.
Of course this is where it all gets a little tricky. First there is the small issue of having the belief in yourself when you’re plagued with self-doubt. The two don’t really seem to go together. This is a topic for another blog, and is an area I have been considering a lot.
Furthermore, throwing logic at negativity doesn’t exactly stop the negative voices and suddenly make you positive. In a way, I guess it’s like a sticking plaster solution – it treats the immediate situation but not necessarily the underlying condition.
In a comment on last week’s blog, it was suggested that reframing the negative thought in a more positive way opens up opportunities for creativity and greater positivity. An excellent idea but, I admit, I find reframing negative thoughts very difficult, I can’t get my head around it. Perhaps it’s just a practice thing or maybe my self-doubt habit has become so ingrained or maybe it’s not how my head works.
But clearly I’m not going to admit defeat on this and will endeavour to find positive solutions to this self-doubt conundrum. All I know so far is that the trick is to not get sucked in by the self-doubt and negative thoughts. You can’t be lead to believe these thoughts at face value.
This ain’t no easy street of course. I realise that just being aware of the self-doubt and trying to counter the negativity of it is only one part of the solution. Finding the other parts of the solution is also part of the journey.